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Katie: Hello and welcome to the Wellness Mama podcast. I’m Katie from wellnessmama.com and I actually liked this episode that’s all about easy methods to breathe and permission to relaxation. And you’ll discover a lot of correlations to elements of my journey that I’ve shared with some actually essential, relevant and sensible ideas that I believe are particularly wanted for girls and mothers.
I’m right here with Ashley Neese, who’s a famend breath work instructor and the writer of How to Breathe and Permission to Rest. She has spent over a decade working on the intersections of embodiment, transformation and renewal. And she’s additionally the host of The Deeper Call e-newsletter and podcast the place she shares her private reflections and restorative conversations on therapeutic and regeneration. And we get to go deep on plenty of facets of this dialog in the present day on this podcast. We began off speaking in a enjoyable method about her expertise as an beginner beekeeper and the way she obtained into it. And as a beekeeper as properly, I appreciated that half, but it surely was really an ideal springboard into our deeper dialog. as a result of being round bees, it seems, can really assist us to downshift into parasympathetic. And that was a standard thread of this dialog the place we talked concerning the understanding and significance of relaxation and the precise definition, which is usually confused in trendy society.
We talked about how relaxation can really assist our capability to do onerous issues and enhance different areas of life, although it’s usually so easy it’s ignored. We talked concerning the distinction between sleep and relaxation and the way whereas they will share some commonalities, they’re distinctly completely different as properly. We additionally talked so much about her trauma restoration and mine as properly, and the way that grew to become a part of her therapeutic journey. We speak about easy practices to be taught relaxation and connect with the physique, how nature helps with this, what the stress response cycle is, and easy methods to full that to have the ability to downshift right into a relaxation cycle, and methods to interrupt the stress response cycle, what a physique finances is and the way that may assist us relaxation.
We go into the somatic components of relaxation and therapeutic and restorative time, and a lot extra. I really feel like this dialog actually ties collectively plenty of issues that I’ve talked about in different podcasts, and can be a very good useful resource and gear for any of you who’re doing that internal work and having bother with that internal emotional, religious, psychological facet, and the way that’s referring to your bodily well being. So with none additional wait, let’s be a part of Ashley. Ashley, welcome. Thanks a lot for being right here.
Ashley: Thank you a lot for having me, Katie. I’m actually trying ahead to this.
Katie: I’m deeply excited for this dialog. I believe we’re going to get to the touch on some extraordinarily related elements of well being that aren’t as usually talked about, however that appear particularly related to girls and to mothers. And I’m very excited to get to dive deep with you on that. Before we do although, I even have a observe out of your bio that you’re additionally an beginner beekeeper. And this can be a interest I’ve had since I used to be a teen. So I’d love to listen to your expertise with that and the way you bought into it. I’m at all times up for any time I get to plug individuals being beekeepers as a result of I believe that’s so useful. The extra folks that preserve bees and perceive bees and even simply plant issues that may profit the bees, I’m all about that. So how did you get into it?
Ashley: I obtained into it, so we moved to the Sierra’s from after dwelling within the Bay Area for some time. And one of many causes we moved out to the Sierras was to be nearer to the land and to have a distinct form of tempo of life. And our first spring right here was really on Earth Day two years in the past. We had simply completed our home and we had been simply driving to the property. And one of many gents who was engaged on our home was like, hey, there’s a swarm over there. Do you guys need this swarm? And my associate and I had been like, oh my God, there’s this swarm. This is so thrilling. We’re so into bees. We knew that we needed bees on the land, however we had no concept easy methods to get began. And Josh, who’s such a candy man, was like, why don’t I’m going allow you to get the swarm after which I can carry you a hive and you may get began. And it simply occurred. They had been on the land. So he came to visit, obtained a noticed, obtained one of many branches down off the tree. We obtained the swarm right into a field and I transferred it into the hive two days later. And we’ve had bees ever since. And we simply caught one other swarm a few months in the past, only a week after Earth Day right here, too. So that appears to be the time they have an inclination to interrupt off. And need to go discover a new residence.
Katie: I like that we now have beehives as properly and we’ve had a few swarms this yr and now a few our neighbors even have bees due to the swarm. So I like that you just’re doing that as properly. And like I mentioned, only a plug for any of you guys who’ve ever been curious, I extremely encourage beekeeping as a interest and engaging, I noticed a research a few weeks in the past really that the form of like resonant sound {that a} beehive makes is seemingly extraordinarily therapeutic to the physique and so they’re doing experimental therapies now with individuals simply being in proximity to the sound of a beehive and the way that may assist them of their parasympathetic. So in the event you wanted a well being motive to contemplate it. I discovered that fascinating that they simply launched that research and truly that springboards completely I believe into our dialog, which I discussed goes to be particularly related for mothers with that bees having the ability to assist with the shift to parasympathetic.
We’re going to get to speak so much about relaxation and I believe this can be a vastly missed and infrequently ignored factor for girls in in the present day’s society and particularly for mothers due to the busyness that tends to come back with motherhood. I do know you discuss so much about this and way more eloquently than I might, however to start out off broad, perhaps give us some background on what you imply once you say relaxation and the way relaxation pertains to our capability to really be capable of do the onerous issues as properly.
Ashley: Yeah, that’s such a fantastic query. So relaxation, the very first thing I wanna say is that I believe there’s a lot confusion, there was undoubtedly plenty of confusion for me. I at all times thought relaxation was the identical as sleeping. And as soon as I began this observe, particularly as a brand new mom, not getting any sleep and having a very sick little child, individuals would at all times say, properly, oh, similar to relaxation when the infant rests or do that. And it’s like, okay, properly, I’ve an entire home to scrub and all this stuff. But I used to be actually curious. It’s like, okay, if I’m not sleeping at night time, if I’m getting up each hour with child, what can I do throughout my day that can give me just a bit micro second of restoration or just a bit technique to shift my nervous system and shift my state.
And as a result of I’d been a breathwork instructor for therefore a few years and been in that world, that was the primary device that I gravitated in direction of. I used to be like, okay, I can take 5 actually lengthy inhales, actually gradual exhales and simply give myself a second to recenter and refocus. And then I began extending these practices in addition to in search of different ways in which I might discover little moments of respite all through the day.
So I write within the ebook that this has been a observe, form of been working in direction of relaxation for a few years, but it surely actually wasn’t till I grew to become a father or mother and I had that lack of sleep that every part modified. I used to be like, oh, this may’t simply be this factor that I do each infrequently. This must be one thing that I’m tapping into all through the day. So that on the finish of the day, I’m not simply fully out of kinds.
And so far as doing the onerous issues, I imply, we’ve obtained three youngsters beneath 5 at residence now. And one of many largest, I believe sides of my therapeutic journey has been recovering from trauma, actually taking a look at form of facets of myself from once I grew up that had been averted, that had been ignored, that had been form of belittled. And there wasn’t actually anybody in my life once I was little who was exhibiting up for me once I was having a tough time. I’ll simply say that. I’m a giant feeler, proper? I’m empathic, I really feel all of the issues on a regular basis. And that’s so much. And I’ve father or mother empaths now and my youngsters are huge feelers as Dr. Becky would say, they’re deeply feeling youngsters. I obtained plenty of deeply feeling youngsters. And as a deeply feeling child myself, I used to be by no means proven like, hey, that is how you might be with any person’s emotions, proper? Because my dad and mom didn’t know easy methods to be with their very own emotions, after all.
And in order a father or mother, doing this relaxation work has really given me the capability to be with myself. So I’ve been capable of form of tune in and go, oh, I simply want a second. Let me pause, let me take a relaxation. Let me simply have a couple of minutes in order that I can are inclined to myself and my little ones who’re freaking out, proper? And then flip to my youngsters and go, hey, what do you want from me proper now? And that has been such, it’s been so therapeutic for myself and for my household and for my lineage on so many ranges as a result of it’s simply that attunement and that resonance. And I can’t get to attunement and resonance once I’m going tremendous quick, once I’m hustling, once I’m avoiding, once I’m trying out, it requires presence. And for me, the way in which that I get current is thru slowing down and resting.
Katie: You simply introduced up so many good factors. I believe initially, the concept that relaxation and sleep usually form of are used synonymously, however I believe to your level, these are totally separate classes. They’re each essential and so they do overlap. But if we simply suppose they’re the identical factor, we really miss out on plenty of potential to make the most of relaxation that isn’t sleep and the methods to try this. And such as you, my trauma therapeutic was vastly impactful to my interactions with individuals and likewise to even my bodily well being in a very excessive method. And it was a really gradual discovered lesson for me. And ever since sharing that story, I’ve had many listeners and readers ask, like, what particularly did you do? How can I do this too? And I spotted that there’s an individualized facet right here in determining for every of us what that relaxation goes to appear like. There’s not, sadly, a simply guidelines blueprint, which additionally speaks to our form of mentality right here that we would like a guidelines. We desire a to-do listing even for therapeutic and relaxation.
And so I like that this can be a extra of a journey and an internal course of that has that individualization to it, however that additionally there appear to be some form of core issues that may assistance on that journey or like practices we are able to be taught that can assist us work out our personal response and our personal relaxation and our personal stress ranges and our personal trauma. I additionally love that you just introduced up your youngsters as a result of the older I get, the extra I actually come to firmly consider that the most effective present we may give our children as their dad and mom is to our personal self-regulation, our personal trauma therapeutic, and our personal capacity to exist presently in a relaxed state.
And I do know that could be a lifelong journey, actually, however I’d love to listen to a few of your examples or practices, perhaps that you just discovered alongside the way in which for having the ability to faucet into that relaxation all through the day. Because I’d guess for a number of the mothers listening perhaps, even the concept of that’s doubtlessly a brand new idea. The capacity to simply take form of like micro moments all through the day to recenter and the way to try this. So I’d love so that you can give extra element on the way you’ve built-in that.
Ashley: Yeah, that’s such an attractive query. And one of many first practices within the ebook is named Orienting. And that is really a observe that I discovered via all of the trauma work that I’ve accomplished. And orienting is so lovely as a result of you are able to do it wherever. It doesn’t require something particular, and it’s actually fast. And so what orienting is, it’s an invite to take a second once you discover, like, oh, I’m getting actually indignant, or I’m actually annoyed, or I’m completely overwhelmed, and I’m beginning to take a look at, or I simply want a second. Because it actually simply takes a couple of seconds. And then you definately simply take a second. And then the very first thing you do is you simply go searching, simply along with your eyes. You simply go searching your area, and also you begin to identify. What do you see? So once I go searching my area proper now, I’m going, oh, there’s a yellow ebook over there. Okay, I look out the window. There’s a tree. Oh, there’s a light-weight coming in from overhead. Just that already begins to shift my nervous system. And it brings me into presence. It brings me into contact with the sensations which can be taking place in my physique. It brings me into contact with my breath.
And then if I need to take it additional, I can go, okay, what do I hear? What am I listening to proper now? Okay, what am I smelling proper now? It’s like we simply actually get into our senses. And so orientation is an excellent technique to get into our senses. And I discover that via this work, entering into our senses is one other method that we are able to begin to downshift into parasympathetic and discover that second of relaxation . So that’s a very lovely one.
Another one is nature. So I’ve an entire chapter within the ebook simply particularly devoted to nature as a result of it’s so large. And we talked about bees at first. I like being in my backyard and simply tooling round in there and listening to the hum of the bees. We have our hive actually near the backyard. It’s simply such an attractive sound. All the hummingbirds, every part else that’s taking place on the market. So any entry to nature, proper? That may very well be getting your ft on the grass. That may very well be tending to a bit of plant in your own home. It doesn’t should be a 60 foot backyard. You can actually make this accessible. It may even be the way in which that we join with our meals. And I do know meals is such a giant factor in your listeners and for the present too. It’s like, how are we connecting to the greens that we’re consuming, to the greens that we’re reducing up? All these issues are a very good technique to begin to nourish and simply begin to discover, initially, there’s connection, proper? I’m not alone. I’m linked to this entire huge net of the world. It isn’t that unimaginable. And that proper right here, that inherent reciprocity and connection is already main us into restoration, proper? Because once more, such as you mentioned, relaxation has all these deeper connotations that’s remembering and reclaiming our interconnectedness, which for me has been an enormous a part of this course of. And simply that slowing down sufficient to go, oh wait, proper? There’s all of the assist proper right here. Even although there’s all these actually onerous issues taking place and I didn’t get sufficient sleep and I’m burdened and all these items, there’s additionally this different factor taking place that’s true too. And that’s a part of the trauma knowledgeable. It’s like, what else can we herald? We’re not making an attempt to get away. We’re not making an attempt to love, you realize, power ourselves into something. We’re going, all that is taking place, however what else is feasible?
Katie: And I do know within the ebook, you additionally speak about one thing you name finishing the stress response cycle. And I’d love so that you can clarify what that’s and the way that pertains to downshifting into relaxation. And I really feel like many individuals, for me at the very least, it was straightforward to get caught in that stress cycle. So I’d love so that you can clarify what you imply by that and form of the levels and easy methods to perceive that.
Ashley: For positive. So the stress response cycle is one thing that I’m intimately conversant in as somebody who lived a lot of my life in a continual state of stress. And I didn’t even know there was a such factor as a stress response cycle. I used to be simply at all times on that uptick. I used to be at all times in combat or flight. Sometimes I used to be in freeze too, however I used to be, my nervous system was simply at all times actually jacked up and I used to be going actually quick. I’ve felt a lot of my life, the sense of urgency, proper? The sense of urgency is form of woven into my nervous system and it exhibits up in all these other ways. It exhibits up in how I discuss. It exhibits up in how I believe. It exhibits up in my, you realize, feeling like I’m unfit if I’m not producing sufficient. Like I simply should go, go, go on a regular basis. And in order that stress response cycle is all a part of that. It’s simply that how our, like our stress physiology shapes us, proper? It actually shapes our brains. It shapes our our bodies. It impacts our well being, all these issues.
And so what we need to do is have sufficient consciousness to go, Whoa, my nervous system is in a stress response cycle. I’m in that proper now. I have to downshift as a result of what occurs if we don’t downshift and break that cycle, they simply begin to stack, proper? And the extra the stress response cycles. one another, then we’re left with all types of well being points and all types of different psychological points. So that is one thing that I struggled with too. My stress was stacking a lot. Guess what? My again went out. Guess what? I used to be laid up in mattress for nearly a yr, similar to actually struggling to even placed on my garments and get myself dressed and bathe. And this was when our son was a yr and a half. It was so brutal. And it was additionally partly whereas I used to be penning this ebook, it’s at all times that factor like we form of create the medication that we’d like on the earth.
And as I used to be penning this ebook and as I used to be going via this course of, my again was out and I used to be like, okay, I’ve obtained to really be taught this in a deeper method now. So what does that imply? We have to downshift the stress response cycle. So there’s plenty of actually true, like scientifically confirmed methods to do that which can be really fairly enjoyable. So certainly one of them is hugging. So that’s simply so lovely. Like we may give ourselves a hug. We can hug our family members. That’s an effective way to downshift the nervous system.
Another method is to do one thing artistic. So that may very well be draw an image. That may very well be one thing actually great for your loved ones or for your self that you just need to be. That may very well be write any person a letter. That may very well be make a telephone name. Another method is thru respiratory. So I do know that simply that lengthy, gradual exhale helps to go forward and begin to downshift the nervous system in a very lovely method. And then yeah, so create, hug. Um, one other method to try this is transfer and transfer is one other one which we use so much in our household when issues that vitality begins to get actually intense or like, okay, let’s activate the music, let’s dance it out. Let’s get our our bodies shifting. Let’s have some enjoyable. Let’s launch that vitality. Let’s shift that cycle. And then after we dance, it’s like that good deep exhale on the finish, you go, okay, we transfer that cycle.
The factor I need to say right here is that it’s, it’s okay. If you begin to discover issues stacking, like I at all times need to give plenty of mission and the work and plenty of alternative and plenty of area and plenty of grace as a result of we’re not going to do that completely. Like I’m nonetheless going to get caught in my stress response cycles, though I’m educating this work, however I’m dwelling it. And it’s the moments on the finish of the day once I’m like, Whoa, I’m so wired. I can’t get myself down to fall asleep at night time. Like, what do I have to do? I want to finish my stress response cycles. And so these are the occasions that I’d lean right into a observe on the finish of the day in order that I can then downshift into sleep.
Katie: And you additionally speak about one thing known as trauma-informed relaxation. And I believe this can even be related. I do know I’ve talked about I’ve talked about my trauma story, and it does appear to be there could also be a distinct method or at the very least like some added issues that may be useful if somebody is aware of that they’re conscious of trauma and that they understand that’s a component of their incapability to downshift simply. So are you able to clarify what you imply by trauma-informed relaxation?
Ashley: Yeah, I’m so glad that you just requested this query as a result of at first, trauma-informed relaxation is actually taking a look at our particular person historical past, proper? It’s trying collectively for positive too, but it surely’s actually taking a look at our particular person histories. And as somebody who’s been in trauma coaching and is trauma-informed and trauma-certified, that is private to me and likewise in all of the work that I’ve accomplished with purchasers through the years is without doubt one of the issues that I observed for myself was that once I began to relaxation, I used to be terrified. I used to be so scared to decelerate. I used to be like, if I decelerate, unhealthy issues are gonna occur. If I’m not going full blast on a regular basis, if I’m not pushing, if I’m not grinding, one thing unhealthy’s gonna occur. And so studying easy methods to, via the trauma-informed lens, go, okay, what in my historical past is exhibiting me this? And then what do I have to do now? Hey, the recommendation that you just would possibly hear on Instagram or someplace out on the earth, it’s like, hey, simply take a relaxation. It’s like, properly, I can’t, I’m too scared. I don’t wanna take a relaxation. I don’t wanna have a look at the grief that I’ve or the ache that I’m carrying or all of the regrets that I’ve or no matter it’s. Like, I’m too afraid. And so what will we do?
And within the ebook, I discuss so much concerning the completely different instruments that I’ve used from somatic experiencing, which is a very lovely trauma mannequin. And one of many instruments is titration. And titration was developed by Peter Levine. And it’s actually, actually lovely as a result of what it gives is only a micro dose. It’s like, okay, you don’t should relaxation for half-hour. Just do 30 seconds. Can you only for 30 seconds, simply observe your breath and simply put your ft on the bottom. Maybe put your arms in your thighs and simply observe your breath 30 seconds. 30 seconds is an excessive amount of. Okay, let’s do 10 seconds. It’s simply actually taking it in order that your nervous system can deal with it and so that you’ve the capability. Because so usually with trauma, we get into overwhelm actually rapidly or we’re going to close down, proper? Everything’s completely overwhelming. And then we shut down. And so with relaxation, it’s like, properly, I’m too scared to relaxation. I can’t do this. There’s no method I can like open myself as much as that or let down what I have to let down. It’s like, okay, properly, you are able to do that for 5 seconds or for 10 seconds. I’m gonna seize some water actually fast. And that’s. That is so potent as a result of we are able to construct on that, proper? That’s one thing that we are able to construct on in that 5 seconds and that 10 seconds of titration can then go into one thing greater. And via the trauma-informed lens, we’re actually taking a look at our personal capability.
And that’s actually what I’m saying. Like not everybody has the capability to enter a relaxation observe for 20 minutes. And that’s okay. You know, all of us have our personal histories that we’re exhibiting up with. We have various things occurring in our our bodies and in our brains and in our lives. It’s like, what can we do this works for us? And so it’s actually taking that individualized and that personalized method to go, hey, there isn’t a one dimension suits all. Just such as you mentioned at first, there’s so many alternative methods to relaxation. And we now have to seek out those that work for us proper now on this season of our lives. Also with the caveat that like our lives are gonna change and our practices are gonna change and so they’re gonna ebb and stream as we develop our capability, as we be taught to really feel secure in our our bodies, you realize, form of one second of relaxation at a time, one breath at a time, as a result of security is a big piece in that trauma-informed dialog. And I’m taking a look at capability and I’m taking a look at security. Like how a lot capability do we now have and the way secure will we really feel?
Katie: Yeah, I believe that feeling of security in our personal our bodies is so key. And additionally I spotted for me at the very least was a journey. It didn’t occur in a single day by any means, but it surely’s been an attractive journey. And it looks as if once I discovered a bit of bit to hearken to my physique, particularly in that trauma restoration part that I used to be in, I felt that my physique was demanding much more relaxation than I had been giving it. And so for a protracted time period throughout that, I actually minimized excessive depth exercises. I actually simply targeted on light motion exterior, which these tie in with the ideas you’ve given, however issues like light walks, light swimming within the water, simply time exterior in nature and let myself sleep greater than I had been sleeping. Let myself be capable of say no to issues and never simply have as a lot on my plate as a lot as attainable throughout that point.
And I felt like that was my physique and my soul form of demanding that relaxation so as to have the ability to heal. And now that I’ve gotten right into a a lot calmer area and have therapeutic, I really feel like I now even have a lot extra vitality that I don’t want as a lot of the each day sleep and relaxation as I used to. And I’ve a lot extra vitality to have the ability to use for tasks, however I don’t suppose I’d have been capable of get there actually not as rapidly had I not listened to my physique’s want for relaxation in that part. And so I like that you just talked about it’s always altering. This doesn’t imply that eternally I used to be going to wish that a lot relaxation and eternally I used to be going to wish 9 and a half hours of sleep. But I do suppose that basically helped the therapeutic part. And I really feel like this pertains to one other idea that you just speak about known as the physique finances. So are you able to clarify what that’s and the way it relates?
Ashley: Yeah, so our brains are form of these wonderful organizers and so they’re at all times form of budgeting like how a lot salt do we’d like? How a lot water do we’d like? What are our stress hormones? What’s taking place with our stress hormones? And so they’re form of budgeting our vitality all day lengthy. And so after we can have a look at one thing just like the physique finances, it may be actually useful to know, okay, once I’m getting into for this actually powerful dialog or when I’ve to go, you realize, to this get together with my youngsters or no matter it’s, this stuff are going to require a certain quantity of vitality. Do I’ve that vitality proper now? I do know to your level, they’re so like, I’ve my very own private form of historical past with burnout and battling burnout in many alternative facets of my life for a lot of completely different causes. Right. And I discover that the deeper I’m going on this journey, the form of, I’m making an attempt to suppose the easiest way to say this.
Essentially what we’re in search of with the physique finances is to essentially put together ourselves for form of the longer term. So let’s say we’re heading into one thing disturbing. Our physique’s going to already begin to be stressed. So all these hormones are going to be going off, cortisol goes to be going up, our adrenaline goes to be going off earlier than we even get to the occasion or earlier than we even have the dialog. So realizing that about our our bodies, what do we’d like to take action that we are able to form of shore ourselves up in these conditions? And somebody I actually admire talks about this so much. She talks about at the start of the week, she appears at her calendar and she or he goes, okay, that is what I’ve scheduled for the week. Do I’ve the capability for that this week? Do I’ve the vitality for that this week? Have I blocked off sufficient occasions of relaxation? Have I blocked off naps? Have I blocked off like time with my household sufficient to essentially get via what I have to get via? And if I haven’t, I’m going to cancel some stuff.
And that goes to your level round saying no and actually having boundaries round our personal vitality. And so I believe the physique finances is a very fabulous device for beginning to take a look at a few of these issues and go, oh, and in the event you’re undecided what that’s, go do an exercise and simply see how do you’re feeling afterwards? Do you’re feeling refreshed? Do you’re feeling replenished? Do you’re feeling depleted? If you’re feeling depleted, that’s data that’s actually essential. So subsequent time you must go to the same exercise, what I’d say is form of bracket that like what are you able to do earlier than to provide your self a bit of little bit of a buffer? Do you want a bit of bit additional sleep? Do you should do a relaxation observe? Do you should just remember to’re hydrated? And then after examine in and see what occurs. And so this generally is a actually enjoyable method for us to begin to gauge like what’s working, what’s not working and never as a technique to stress ourselves out much more. You know, I’ll have purchasers might be like, okay, so does that imply I want to trace in a journal like each single factor I do in a day after which do some relaxation observe to counter that factor? I’m like, no, no, no, that’s method an excessive amount of. It’s simply noticing. And it’s noticing after a dialog, after occasion, these forms of issues. How am I feeling? What’s my vitality like? okay, subsequent time, what can I do in a different way? What can I weave in to provide myself that assist?
Katie: Yeah, you talked about hydration and I very a lot consider that is an space the place there’s both going to be a optimistic suggestions loop or a adverse suggestions loop anytime we’re speaking about relaxation and stress and the physique and the thoughts working collectively. And I believe the great thing about that’s understanding it. We can then hopefully do the issues that assist that shift right into a optimistic suggestions loop. And for me, a type of was actually hydration and likewise taking a look at like my minerals. I wasn’t getting sufficient minerals and after we’re in a state of stress, we’re burning via plenty of additional magnesium and we’re depleting minerals extra quickly than we might be if we weren’t burdened. And so for me in that part, I additionally paid consideration to essentially supporting my physique via intentional hydration but in addition ensuring I used to be getting sufficient minerals, hint minerals, electrolytes, all of the issues that I had depleted with out realizing it for lots of years.
And I believe that there’s many issues in that class that assist the physique and that creates additionally a optimistic change for the thoughts and for the feelings. And then additionally these modifications we make mentally and emotionally then additionally may give us extra vitality within the physique such as you’re explaining as properly. And I believe additionally this touches on one thing that… I believe this half specifically is probably the most tough perhaps for mothers as a result of it’s really easy to place all people else first and we are able to get that mother guilt if we take time to relaxation. And so I needed to talk on to that for a minute as a result of I additionally suppose as mothers, the most effective items we may give our children is to mannequin the flexibility to relaxation and the flexibility to take a second and recenter.
I discover this for instance, even with my youngsters, if there’s stress taking place within the family, fairly than put them in timeout or inform them to go away and isolate, I’ll mannequin it by I have to go in my room and breathe for a few minutes after which I’d love to come back again and have a dialog with you and I may be extra current and extra peaceable. And hopefully by doing that, give them the permission to have that conduct as properly. But are you able to converse particularly to perhaps the mother guilt facet in the event you encounter that with individuals that you just work with and any ideas for getting previous that internally after we really feel unhealthy for form of that analogy of placing on our personal masks first?
Ashley: Yeah, I like that a lot, Katie, and that’s simply what you mentioned is a observe that we do in our residence to my associate, and I do this as properly, simply going. Okay, we’re noticing it’s there’s methods wherein it virtually appears simpler simply to place our children like, it’s like, okay, are you able to simply go away? And it’s like, no, I’m the one who must take a minute. I’m the one who must be modeling this and to provide no matter, give myself no matter I’m needing in that second. And in order that’s undoubtedly a observe that we do. I spend plenty of time exterior. That’s actually, actually essential to me. It helps me floor. It helps me really feel linked. And it simply helps to shift my perspective so rapidly. Like actually all I have to do is step exterior and form of look across the bushes and see the backyard and see some flowers and even simply have a look at the grass and one thing has simply modified already. So there’s a lot magic and a lot potential in that.
And when it comes to the guilt, you realize, for me, one of many issues that I usually do once I’m feeling responsible is simply attempt to get beneath that and attempt to get into, okay, the place’s that program coming from? Where’s that story loop working? Do I want that proper now? Is that needed? Is that going to assist me transfer ahead? And usually it’s not. And usually for me, my guilt packages are, you realize, come from my historical past and so they come from my household of origin and so they don’t actually have relevance for me in that second. And so that is, I’m saying that, but it surely’s onerous. You know, it’s not like I simply get up in the future and do that. This has been years of remedy and making and years of doing this work. So in the event you’re new and also you’re battling that mother guilt and also you’re like, okay, I don’t even know what you’re saying. How do I get beneath that? Just give your self a second. The extra moments that you just take for your self, the simpler it’s going to be sooner or later to form of get beneath that and ask these questions, these deeper questions of, oh, do I actually should be feeling this proper now? Is this really serving to me proper now? Is it serving me? Is it not serving me? Why am I really feeling responsible? And I believe as soon as we begin to unpack that, the guilt really begins to shift fairly rapidly. And that’s undoubtedly been my expertise. Once I’ve been capable of get beneath it and begin to form of shine some gentle on it, I discovered that I don’t want it as a lot as I as soon as did.
Katie: And I really feel like this additionally springboards into one other actually essential key, which is that reference to self-worth and self-trust. And I do know these had been very tough issues for me to be taught and I needed to take a, it was a strategy of studying to form of audit my inner language and are available into like discovering a spot of peace inside myself. And you touched on this a bit of bit about making peace with our physique, however how do these concepts of self-worth and self-trust tie into this and the way can we nurture these?
Ashley: Yeah, that’s such a fantastic query. Self, and this has all form of come out of this work for me as a result of I didn’t, you realize, once I began engaged on relaxation and form of making relaxation extra of a degree in my life, I didn’t even know the way linked it was to my self-worth and my self-trust. And, you realize, traditionally my self-worth has been fairly low and simply getting thus far the place I acknowledge, hey, I’m value caring for, my physique is value caring for, my coronary heart is value caring for, I’ve worth and never due to what I’m making or what I’m creating, however simply because I’m a human on this planet, and that’s nonetheless one thing that exhibits up for me typically. I imply, in preparation for this podcast, I used to be going over every part final night time with my associate. He will get these downloads and he’ll simply cease himself. And then his physique will get actually nonetheless and his eyes form of shut. And I’m like, oh, Nick’s getting a obtain. This is gonna be good. And I’m ready like with bated breath. What’s he gonna say, you realize? Tell me easy methods to reply this query. And then he simply appears at me and he goes. You don’t have to elucidate your self. He’s like, you already need to be right here. You have a proper to be right here, you need to be right here. You don’t have to elucidate your self. And it tears, proper? And it’s simply that second of, oh, proper, there’s nonetheless these locations the place that low self-worth exhibits up, as a result of there’s this toddler, you realize, this youthful a part of myself that also needs to love do a great job and show myself and present everybody how sensible I’m or no matter it’s, you realize?
And once I can have a look at her and actually be together with her and say, hey, toddler, I see you. I see that you just’re actually desirous to show your self and like work so onerous proper now. You don’t have to. You can take a relaxation. You can take a nap. You can have a snack. You can similar to do what you should do. Then that gives me the area and time for grownup Ashley to indicate up and go, hey, like, let’s have enjoyable with this as an alternative of constructing or not it’s a disturbing scenario. And that’s so linked to my self-worth as a result of my self-worth is so, was at all times a lot, like I mentioned earlier than, about hustling, about proving, about striving, and it’s by no means sufficient. You know, and I’m positive so many different individuals relate to this. It’s like, we are able to lastly get the job or the factor or no matter it’s that we would like. And it’s nonetheless not gonna be sufficient. And so at that second in my life, it’s like, oh, I’ve to look inside myself. What is it that I’m needing? What is it that I’m working from?
And that was at all times a query for me with the remainder. It’s like, why am I working so onerous? And why am I working so quick? And so what do I have to do to decelerate and cease working and actually take that breath and be with myself and be with the ache and the therapeutic and simply that entire journey? And in order that’s actually what it’s been. And studying easy methods to belief myself has been an enormous a part of that. And it actually ties into the Self-worth as a result of once I know and I’ve these moments once I really feel like, okay, I’m value resting, then I belief myself to take the following proper motion on behalf of myself afterward in that day or that week.
And I simply additionally wanna say one thing too, as a result of that is developing for me so much. It’s like, we stay on this tradition that basically prioritizes like our exterior life, proper? It actually prioritizes like how a lot we are able to accomplish, how briskly we are able to accomplish it, what number of like prizes and accolades we now have. But actually, after we decelerate, I’ll simply reframe this, once I decelerate and I get quiet and I’ve a second of relaxation with myself that then I can have with my associate or that then I can have with my youngsters or that then I can share with individuals in my group, that’s productive. And not solely is it productive, it’s generative. And I’ve actually been trying on the distinction between productiveness and like what we generate. And being generative is actually on the facet of relaxation. It’s actually on the facet of revolution. It’s actually on the facet of regenerating and one thing that offers again. And so once I take into consideration resting too, it’s this like deeply private expertise, but it surely’s additionally a private expertise that then connects me outward into the remainder of the world.
Katie: I like that distinction. I’m so glad you introduced that up. And I additionally love that you just talked about the internal youngster. This was an element that I did in remedy so much, was studying to form of reintegrate and make peace and make associates with my internal youngster and nourish them. And I even did visualizations the place I… visualized my internal youngster and gave it a hug within the occasions when it wanted a hug and didn’t get it. And I really feel like that’s so invaluable.
And I additionally love that you just touched on. after we’re capable of entry that self-love and self-worth, it makes really all the choices that result in higher well being, whether or not it’s bodily, mentally, emotionally, a lot simpler as a result of it’s coming from a spot of affection and nourishment and never punishment or deprivation or even when it’s one thing so simple as like bodily well being and weight-reduction plan, it’s a lot simpler to decide on the meals that nourish us from a spot of affection than a spot of deprivation and framing that issues are unhealthy or that we’re afraid of it or we’re making an attempt to drop a few pounds. It’s simply such a extra highly effective mindset.
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Also, what you touched on with being with the happiness angle, it made me consider a quote from my pal Naval that mentioned, needs after we make a contract with ourselves to be sad till we get what we would like. And I spotted I had tales in my head of, oh, I’ll be completely satisfied once I’m this dimension or I’ll be completely satisfied when this occurs or I’ll be completely satisfied once I get via all these tasks. And I needed to be taught really happiness is the factor I can select now and nurture now. And these issues can nonetheless occur, however I don’t have to make a contract with myself to be sad till they do. I can really nurture that proper now.
I really feel like one other a part of this that’s tremendous invaluable, and I’ve talked a bit of bit about on right here, however I believe you’re gonna have so significantly better perspective for is the somatic facet. And I first was launched to this once I learn the ebook, The Body Keeps the Score. And then I had my very own journey of discovering simply how intricately the physique and the thoughts are linked and the way that course of unraveled for me. But I’d love to listen to you converse to the somatic facet and something we are able to do from a somatic perspective to course of that stress response, to get into a greater place somatically, and likewise how that pertains to our interactions with different individuals and boundary setting and any practices which can be useful there.
Ashley: There’s a lot in what you mentioned. I need to reply to every part. But when it comes to the somatic piece, that’s been an enormous, large piece for me, particularly with the noting a lot trauma work myself personally has been actually taking a look at like what’s exhibiting up in my physique. And it’s been an fascinating journey for me. I imply, I grew up as a dancer. So I had plenty of like early introduction to somatic motion, to being in my physique, to all these various things. But then I grew up doing classical ballet, which may be very, very formal and it’s very strict. And there’s a lot about overriding. There’s a lot about pushing, like get your physique into this form, proper? There’s no like, oh, you’re not gonna do this. So it’s not like, there’s simply, you’re doing it. The instructor’s yelling at you, you realize, and she or he’s like, it’s intense, it’s hardcore. That was my expertise with ballet as a child. And I liked it. And it wasn’t till a few years later as an grownup, I used to be like, really, I don’t wanna push my physique that arduous. I don’t need to override a sensation that I’m having in my foot. And then I’m taking my pointy footwear off and my ft are bleeding from dancing for 3 hours. It’s like, that wasn’t really wholesome for me, but it surely taught me a lot. And as an grownup and the way that exhibits up in my life now with the somatic work that I do, I take these moments to examine in.
And that instance that I gave earlier of even simply taking a look at my week forward, it’s like I examine in with my physique, not simply taking a look at my calendar and taking a look at it from this extra form of psychological, cognitive place, I’m going, how does that really feel in my physique? or somebody calls and invitations me out someplace, I’m going, yeah, give me a second. What am I noticing in my physique? Am I feeling tight? Am I feeling restricted? Is my tummy doing one thing unusual? Or am I feeling open? Is my chest open? Or are my shoulders relaxed? Like what are the cues for me? And the cool factor about this work, the thematic piece is all of us have these particular person cues that mark like, hey, I’m in a stress response. Hey, I’m beginning to disassociate. I’m feeling confused. My imaginative and prescient is blurry, proper? Or, oh, I’m beginning to really feel relaxed. My tummy is grumbling in that method that it does when it’s like that form of digestive parasympathetic response. Or my jaw is softening, proper? Or my tongue will not be pressed up on the roof of my mouth. So there’s all these completely different physique markers and somatic alerts for us to know what sort of state we’re in.
But it’s as much as us to concentrate to them. And that’s its personal observe and its personal journey, as you so fantastically shared. And particularly for these of us like myself who’ve spent a lot of their lives both overriding, pushing my physique previous its limits, or fully trying out. It’s like, I’m in an excessive camp. I’m like one or the opposite. I’m both like completely not right here, or I’m so right here. I’m like driving myself into the bottom, doing one thing that’s actually tough for my physique. Because that’s acquainted to me, proper? It’s like, now I can put myself into this factor.
And what I’ve discovered via this observe of relaxation and the way it connects is simply the softening. If I put on my physique, am I prepared to melt? Where do I really feel secure sufficient to melt? If I don’t really feel secure, what do I want on this second proper now to assist myself even really feel 1% safer? I believe usually when it comes to trauma, the place we’re in search of these huge experiences, proper? We’re like, okay, I would like the ayahuasca sort expertise with relaxation. What’s the massive peak second that I can have? And usually the height moments are available in these little tiny micro shifts. It’s like, oh, if I simply launch my shoulder 1% and simply stick with that, oh, wow, there’s some disappointment there. Oh, there’s some grief there. Okay, let’s stick with that versus simply making an attempt to override it and get my shoulder down as quick as attainable. So the somatic work is available in that method too.
And then the way it exhibits up in {our relationships}. And this can be a piece that I’ve needed to work via for therefore a few years. I’m somebody who usually would say sure once I meant no, you realize, I didn’t know easy methods to say no, it wasn’t, you realize, in my vocabulary, it wasn’t one thing I used to be allowed to say rising up. And it wasn’t till, you realize, in these previous few years, particularly having youngsters, and I’ve been capable of discover ways to say no. And up to now, I’d say no from this place of being actually disembodied. And so my no wasn’t anchored in something. It wasn’t stable. It wasn’t a agency. And so individuals would simply blow previous my no. And I’m like, I’m saying no, I’m doing what I’m alleged to do. I learn all of the remedy books and all of the boundary setting books. And I’ve this script proper right here. It’s like, you higher not discuss to me like that or no matter it’s. It’s like, nobody would even pay attention. My boundaries didn’t land with anybody.
And it wasn’t till I began doing the somatic piece that I used to be like, oh, I’m saying no, however my physique’s saying one thing completely completely different. How do I combine these items? How do I discover coherence? How do I get my mind and my physique on the identical web page? And it was via paying consideration and going to remedy. And my therapist would say, the place does that, the place do you’re feeling that no in your physique? And I must sit and go, Oh, I really need to push. Oh, I really need to kick. Oh, I really need to do these different issues with my physique. And that’s the place the actual therapeutic got here in. Because as soon as I began letting my physique have the form of finishing again to that dialog, actually finishing that stress response cycle, finishing these trauma response cycles, then now once I say no, it’s clear, there’s no confusion about my no persons are like, Oh, she’s severe. She mentioned, no, okay, transfer shifting on. Right. They’re not nonetheless making an attempt to get in there and get me to say sure. So that’s actually like, for me, just like the somatic piece round boundaries and relaxation comes into the combination. It’s like, are we saying no with our full physique? And if we’re not, how can we transfer in direction of that?
Katie: You clarify that so, so properly and such as you, I used to be… very habitually would say sure once I meant no, even I’d verbally say sure once I met no. And I additionally had, I believe, a wound from childhood and from sure experiences the place I felt most secure if all people was completely satisfied. So I’d go to even like nice lengths to maintain everybody completely satisfied even on the expense of myself. And I needed to be taught slowly that… boundaries and kindness should exist collectively, and that features kindness towards your self. And that was the piece I had to determine. And then from there, I used to be capable of really construct boundaries as properly. And I do nonetheless suppose they not solely can exist collectively, they really should exist collectively, boundaries and kindness.
It looks as if for girls, particularly, this generally is a tougher a part of the journey actually because we usually tend to be prepared to love give of ourselves to the purpose of exhaustion. and never replenish ourselves sufficient. And so I like that we’ve obtained to carry that into the dialog as properly. I’d additionally love to speak a bit of extra deeply concerning the respiratory facet and any breath work practices that individuals might use as child steps into studying these relaxation practices. Because I believe after we give it some thought from a logical standpoint, we are able to go weeks with out meals, we are able to go days with out water, we are able to solely go minutes with out air. And so we breathe way more any given day than we do every other enter into our biology. But it’s usually probably the most missed, once more, as a result of usually the only issues are the best to miss, or probably the most automated issues are the best to miss. But I’ve seen, for me, how profoundly simply making time for intentional breath work at completely different occasions of the day, not even a very long time, not even plenty of this, can have such a profound impression on even the physiology.
So even when somebody’s engaged on a bodily well being downside or a sleep challenge, I’ve seen breath work drastically change my sleep and different individuals’s sleep. And I believe that. our nervous programs really be taught to reply. Like with all these belongings you’re speaking about with having the ability to get right into a state of relaxation extra, that pays dividends to our nervous system and the way we’re in our sleep and the way we’re, even our coronary heart fee variability through the day, we even have the metrics now to see that this has a helpful impression on the physique. So I’d love so that you can stroll us via any child steps into breath work practices that may be useful. You talked about some which can be useful pre-sleep perhaps, and even simply all through the day to form of reset that stress response.
Ashley: And that’s lovely, Katie, and yeah, linked to a lot of that. And usually the way in which I speak about relaxation is that it’s a bridge to sleep. And so at first of the dialog, we had been form of distinguishing like what’s relaxation, what’s sleep? Those issues are completely different, they’re their very own practices. They’re each very, very, essential, however a lot in our tradition now’s targeted on sleep accurately. You know, there’s so many statistics on the market. Like most of us usually are not getting sufficient sleep. And so due to that, particularly as dad and mom, what can we do all through the day?
And I like that you just’re bringing in breath. You know, somebody who’s been learning breath and, you realize, written a ebook about breath work, this can be a subject that’s actually, actually near me in a observe that I’ve been doing for a few years. And I at all times recommend at first, simply begin actually small. And I say, begin with 5 breaths. So 5 rounds, you’re simply going to inhale via your nostril for so long as attainable. You’re not going to push it. You’re not going to power it, however simply take that deep inhale via the nostril. all the way in which to the highest. And then there’s be a slight pause on the prime. Then you’re gonna exhale via your nostril, simply for so long as you may. Right, so we wanna suppose gradual, light, ease. Those are the phrases that we wanna form of be occupied with as we’re respiratory, simply 5 occasions. And I’m gonna have you ever do this all through your day. So once you get up within the morning, after you drop the children off or no matter your form of like mid-morning day is, lunchtime, afternoon, earlier than mattress, proper? So do this 5 occasions through the day, the 5 by 5.
And it’s actually, actually, actually useful as a result of it’s useful for therefore many causes, but it surely begins to construct in that observe. And so usually we’ll hear from individuals, oh, I did breath work one time. It didn’t work. Or similar with meditation. I attempted meditating like twice. It didn’t work. It’s like, no, no, we now have to love construct this into our routine and make it tremendous straightforward. You know, I’m positive, I do know you’ve learn the ebook and I’m positive lots of people have the Atomic Habits, however James Clear actually talks about it. It’s like, okay, in the event you’re making an attempt to construct a brand new behavior, the place are you able to add that in to one thing that you just’re already doing? So he calls it behavior stacking. And I believe it’s genius. So I’ll say to purchasers, okay, once you’re brushing your tooth, after that do your breath work, proper? You drop the children off from college. They get out of the automotive, shut the door, do 5 minutes or do 5 breaths. It’s simply actually, actually easy. And so the place are you able to weave it in? And then so far as the precise observe, begin there. Those 5 inhales, maintain on the prime after which exhale out of the nostril. That’s gonna be the only place to start out.
And then in the event you’re wanting so as to add onto that, the following factor I’d recommend is begin to lengthen your exhalation via your nostril for so long as you may. Again, we wanna have plenty of gentleness and plenty of alternative with this. This isn’t a forceful observe. It’s meant to be nourishing. It’s meant to be restorative. It’s meant to be replenishing to the system. And it’s additionally meant to be straightforward sufficient that you are able to do it sufficient occasions to begin to construct that behavior. And the extra you do it, the behavior will get stronger and stronger. And then you definately actually begin to see the advantages, similar to you spoke of so fantastically, Katie. It’s like then we get the actual advantages of the work, that are unimaginable. I imply, there’s a lot science behind breath work now that it’s simply wonderful. And such as you mentioned, it’s one thing that’s really easy to miss or be like, oh, that’s simply, in the event you’re scrolling on Instagram, you’ve obtained time to do 5 breaths. You can do it.
Katie: Yeah. And to talk to your level of how properly that may work, I believe it’s like a nervous system coaching factor that the extra that you just do this observe, the extra your nervous system learns to breathe that method with out you having to consciously give it some thought. And in order that improves your respiration fee when you’re sleeping. That improves, you usually see advantages in train, even simply from these little tiny micro breathwork classes such as you’re speaking about. And I additionally know in the event you do wrestle with sleep, I’ve seen for me, if I do this form of breathwork or one thing related like a 4, seven, eight breathwork, any form of breathwork earlier than mattress. And then that tip you talked about about form of scanning the physique and enjoyable any locations that you just really feel tight. I’ll begin at my head and attempt to calm down all the way in which all the way down to my toes. And I virtually by no means make all of it the way in which all the way down to my toes earlier than falling asleep as a result of it’s so enjoyable and it brings consciousness to these spots within the physique that really feel sticky or tight. And then when you launch them, it’s just like the nervous system is prepared for sleep. So that’s a tip I like to provide individuals. If you do wrestle with the falling asleep half, that’s been actually, actually useful for me.
And I do know you’ve gotten, you’ve talked about your ebook. I’ll be certain after all that’s linked within the present notes as a result of there’s a lot extra that it goes into than we are able to cowl in a one hour podcast episode. Though I like that we’ve gotten into so many each sensible and foundational facets of this. And I do know, like I mentioned, there’s a lot extra that you just’ve written about. I’ll be certain it’s linked. You guys test it out. It’s superior. That’ll be within the present notes at wellnessmama.fm. But on that observe, a couple of questions I like to ask towards the top of interviews. The first is that if there’s a ebook or variety of books which have profoundly impacted you and in that case, what they’re and why.
Ashley: Yeah, so I used to be occupied with that. And the primary ebook that got here to thoughts was the massive ebook of Alcoholics Anonymous. And I obtained sober once I was 21, which was fairly some time in the past. And although I’m not at the moment collaborating in AA, that ebook had a profound impression on my life. I give plenty of credit score to that ebook for actually exhibiting me a distinct technique to stay, proper? And now what’s so fascinating is like with all the brand new analysis out and what we learn about trauma and alcoholism and dependancy, there’s a lot of that that doesn’t land with me in the identical method that it did, but it surely modified the course of my life. So I can’t not point out it or can’t not take into consideration that ebook.
Another ebook that I simply love and return to so usually is Untethered Soul. I believe that ebook is simply so unimaginable. It’s a technique to actually like increase my thoughts and open me as much as risk. And that ebook, when it first got here into my life, it’s a type of books, once more, I’ve so many books that I’ve have been on my cabinets for many years and that’s certainly one of them, but it surely actually confirmed me what was attainable with even my considering thoughts and with my ego and simply gave me one other language and one other technique to look and reframe issues and go, oh wait, once I’m having a thought, who’s considering that thought? I imply, that’s such a potent query. And it actually took me on this unimaginable journey of self-discovery and of simply extra consciousness and deeper consciousness.
Katie: I find it irresistible. Those will each be linked within the present notes as properly. For all of you guys listening, all that’s at all times at wellnessmama.fm. Where can individuals discover you on-line? Obviously, I’m positive your ebook is wherever books are offered, however the place can individuals discover you and continue learning from you?
Ashley: So the most effective place to be taught from me proper now’s on my Substack and you will discover it at AshleyNeese Substack or thedeepercall.substack.com and that’s the place I’m hanging out. I write letters each week. I share ideas, insights, all types of stuff. We have plenty of enjoyable hanging out over there. I’m loving Substack as a result of it looks like, and I do know you in all probability relate to this, it’s just like the previous days of running a blog. It’s similar to, looks like such a enjoyable group. There’s so many feedback and ideas and questions and there’s simply plenty of connection over there. So that’s the place I’m hanging out. It’s the Deeper Call at Substack.
Katie: I’ll embrace that hyperlink as properly. And lastly, any parting recommendation for the listeners that may very well be associated to one thing we’ve talked about or totally unrelated life recommendation that you’ve discovered useful.
Ashley: The factor that involves thoughts and I believe this was simply one thing that I wanted to listen to a lot at first of my relaxation observe was that you just’re worthy of resting. And this ties into the Self-worth piece that we talked about. And it has taken me a very long time to essentially get to a spot the place I do know that I’m value resting. Like it’s okay for me to decelerate and to the touch, you realize, form of tie again into the mother guilt. Even if my youngsters are having a meltdown or one thing else is happening, I can nonetheless take 30 seconds. I can nonetheless take a minute for myself to form of refill my cup and provides myself that reset. And I’m value it. And so are you.
Katie: I believe that’s an ideal place to place a pin in it for in the present day. Like I mentioned, you’ve gotten a lot extra within the ebook that individuals can proceed to be taught from you. But this has been such an attractive dialog. I’m so grateful in your time. I’ve liked the course that this obtained to go. Thank you a lot for being right here.
Ashley: Thank you a lot, Katie. It was actually great to be in dialog with you in the present day.
Katie: And thanks as at all times to all of you for listening and for sharing your most precious sources, your time, your vitality, and your consideration with us in the present day. We’re each so grateful that you just did, and I hope that you’ll be a part of me once more on the following episode of the Wellness Mama Podcast.
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