As our great columnist Grace Victory embarks on an thrilling new chapter in her life, and pens her ultimate column for us, she displays on the passage of time, in addition to the teachings from endings – and new beginnings
If I’ve learnt one factor prior to now few years, it’s that nothing lasts perpetually. Whether it’s a selected feeling, trauma, a job or a friendship, generally issues run their course, seasons change, and what we as soon as needed or wanted, we not want.
Emotions like happiness are fleeting, usually relying on outdoors sources, and emotions like unhappiness may be as a result of climate, or hormones, or scrolling aimlessly on Twitter (all of us do it LOL).
Our emotions can change so dramatically by the day that we will’t place an excessive amount of attachment to them. They can remodel. They finish. They don’t normally final too lengthy. And I believe that’s truly a fairly stunning factor about humanity. Difficult relationships can finally reveal a method out and ahead, we is perhaps made redundant from a job we completely detest, and childhood trauma might finish once we develop into maturity, put the work in, and heal.
Endings are the place the place beginnings can begin, and whereas refreshing and exquisite, they’ll usually really feel messy and uncomfortable – particularly if, like me, you may have a must really feel in management.
Life is unpredictable, and we should ebb and stream like water to grow to be resilient to what’s introduced our method. This contains doorways being shut in our faces, or us having the braveness to slam them shut ourselves. The finish of one thing could be a mourning interval, but additionally a time to replicate on what’s been, how we really feel, and the way we’d like to maneuver ahead.
As the 12 months attracts to an in depth, I at all times really feel pensive and extra conscious of my ideas, particularly now that I’m a mom and have overcome crucial sickness. You don’t come again from demise (each within the bodily and religious sense) and simply decide up the place you left off. Everything feels completely different. Everything is completely different. And time to re-evaluate is vital.
As my maternity depart is in full swing (and by the point you learn this my second-born will likely be right here), I’m within the area of beginning a brand new chapter. A chapter the place I’m a mom of two, the place I’m rediscovering components of myself that I’ve misplaced, but additionally discovering components of myself I by no means knew have been there, and simply hitting pause so I can assume, focus, and resolve on what the longer term appears like for me. Contracts and collaborations with unbelievable manufacturers are ending, and I’m (for the primary time) taking an extended break free from work and social media. The solely break I’ve had in 12 years was once I was in a coma, which doesn’t bloody depend!!
I’m drained.
Tired to my core, and really a lot in want of taking a while out to be with my household, proceed therapeutic, and discover different issues – new, thrilling issues – that convey me contentment and pleasure. While happiness is so fleeting, I imagine peace could be a fixed, and that’s one thing I’d wish to work in the direction of. Long gone are the times of being OK and comfy with chaos; I would like stillness and to do this, I would like to chop out among the noise, my ever rising listing of duties and, after all, the to-do listing that I’ll in all probability die with!
With that being stated, I’ve additionally made the choice to finish my Happiful column. For no different cause than simply feeling like I would like to maneuver on, and provides this power to myself and my household. I’ve completely liked this nook of content material to share my ideas, give recommendation, and connect with my readers. Over the years, it actually has grow to be my secure area, and the one place I delve into sure subjects.
To the workforce, particularly Lucy, thanks for having my again and permitting me to make use of my column so freely. Happiful actually is a breath of contemporary air.
To you, the reader, for taking the time to learn my phrases, thanks.
Moving on is rarely straightforward for me. I ponder, overthink, and generally second guess my selections, however I do know that each one of those endings are catalysts for change and progress, so I’m embracing them with open arms.
“But what if I fail? Oh, but my darling… what if you fly?”
Love Grace x